Monthly Archives: December 2015

Holiday Wishes

Bailey's Harbor

Holiday Wishes

The many blessings of our season

Well, its finally our Christmas week beginning here in Door County WI.  I had to use a picture from last winter since we have unusually warm weather this year, a December that has not yet provided us with the usual blanket of white to curl beneath.

My family has begun our holiday togetherness, extending from family visits in Milwaukee to our excited expectation for our children and grandchildren visiting throughout the upcoming days.  It is a joyful and busy time, and has been stressful at times already. But this year has provided good health and allowed my husband and I to take care of our whole selves.  I pray that all reading this will enjoy beautiful, peaceful, and loving holiday weeks as we usher in the new year.

 

 

Tips For Those Grieving During the Holidays

Holiday Twinkle

Tips for Those Grieving During the Holidays

The holidays can feel surreal when you are grieving

As a very young mother, my first experience of deep, dark, and difficult grief came just three weeks before Christmas, when I had a stillbirth of a beautiful girl. I remember well, all these years later, what the holiday joy surrounding me felt like for that year and many others after.

I was too young then to allow myself to voice my feelings to anyone other than those closest to me, and later, when I sought therapy to deal with my loss. Yet even family, close friends, and coworkers felt the sudden need to quiet their happiness when I was around.  It was a no win situation for anyone, and I felt that somehow I was responsible for stifling their holiday happiness.

My work now includes those experiencing anticipatory grief, or dealing with the recent loss of a loved one. Gratefully, our world has opened to include our emotional needs, providing  much more support and help for all. Yet when our emotions don’t match that of the season, it only serves to reinforce loss and grief, even in when we are able to be open about it.

I offer some suggestions to those in grief, as well as for those that love and support them:

  • Allow yourself to honor this season in ways that honor the person that is ill or has passed. Write stories, make a picture display of favorite memories. Include it as part of your family get together.
  • Allow yourself to cry, to remember happier times, and to share these memories among those that you share this holiday with.
  • Reach out to support groups, as a caregiver or after your loss. There are many intangible ways that you will feel supported and not alone in your feelings and experience.
  • Always, honor your own feelings without question, share them with those that you are close to and seek support outside of your intimate circle. Seek professional help when you need it.

The holidays can become a special time of remembrance in these ways, and your experience will be honored by those closest to you. I always celebrate December 4th quietly, and after so many years it has become a very sacred, and special day to me. I pray the same for you, in time.

Namaste.

 

 

Being Present throughout the Holidays

Joseph Mendla

Being Present throughout the Holidays

Stay connected to your true self as you embrace the holiday season

The holiday rush has begun in my life, and already I’m feeling the change in the energy of my world. I chose the image today of a sculpture by Joseph Mendla. It is part of his series that represent the journey within, and designed to promote a meditative place. It is a fitting reminder to me at this busy time of year, and one that effortlessly brings me back to center with each conscious gaze.

I find it helpful to have my home filled with art and natural objects that act as areas that draw me into them, and feed my soul’s elemental nature. Maintaining my daily rituals of meditation and journaling, as well as particular attention to my diet and exercise all help me to enjoy this time without losing my way. I hope that you can begin each day with an intention for alignment and presence to your own self, while you enjoy all the loving people and special traditions in your life.

 

Embrace the New Year with Meditative Journaling

Winter Glaze

Embrace the New Year with Meditative Journaling

Share silence with others as you open a conversation with the sacred within

Join this 2 Part Workshop surrounded by Door County’s natural beauty                                 Sturgeon Bay’s Centerpointe Marina

         Saturday, January 16th and January 30th

                                        1-3PM

Participants will be introduced to Meditative Journaling……as they learn to quiet their minds, while turning towards the silent whispers of their eternal selves. No writing or meditation experience is necessary.  We will each write our own reflections prompted by poetry, readings from spiritual teachers, music, and art.

2 Part Workshop………$125

Early Registration until 12/18……$95

To Register

Contact Marggie at 920-495-156Or by email at  marggie.hatala@live.com